Citation : Singh AR (2023). No Compulsion Control In Love. In:Ghalib, Psychology and Human Behaviour - 1 (A.R Singh and S.A Singh Eds), Mens Sana Monogr; 21:1. pg 58-59
عشق پر زور نہیں ہے یہ وہ آتش غالبؔ
کہ لگائے نہ لگے اور بجھائے نہ بنے
इश्क़ पर ज़ोर नहीं है ये वो आतिश ‘ग़ालिब’
कि लगाए न लगे और बुझाए न बने
ishq par zor nahii.n hai ye vo aatish ‘Ghalib’
ki lagaa.e na lage aur bujhaa.e na bane
(DG 192:9:1197)
Meaning
There is no control / compulsion in love,it’s such a fire
That neither can it be lit, nor extinguished
کہ لگائے نہ لگے اور بجھائے نہ بنے
इश्क़ पर ज़ोर नहीं है ये वो आतिश ‘ग़ालिब’
कि लगाए न लगे और बुझाए न बने
ishq par zor nahii.n hai ye vo aatish ‘Ghalib’
ki lagaa.e na lage aur bujhaa.e na bane
(DG 192:9:1197)
Meaning
There is no control / compulsion in love,it’s such a fire
That neither can it be lit, nor extinguished
Explanation/Comment:
‘Zor’ can mean both control and compulsion. One has no control over love. It just happens.
Love is like a fire. One cannot compel/control someone to light it. Once lit, however, one cannot compel/control someone to extinguish it.
The tragic consequences of forcing one’s love on another and hurting oneself (and/or the loved one) when snubbed is well known.
Equally, the tragic consequences of trying to separate two persons in love are also well too known.
Love is a very precious emotion. It needs nurturing and acceptance, not compulsion or control.